Friday, August 13, 2010

Friday Five~~Dog days of summer

Hard to believe that summer is starting to wind down; I'm on vacation this month and all too aware that when I get back to work, fall will be upon us! So here's to summer:

1. What is the weather like where you live?

I love summer in New England, but this has been a hot and sticky one (hello, global warming!) I've been in Vermont all week where it has been very pleasant, and I'm going on to Maine in a couple of days, where I'm hoping for more of the same.


2. Share one thing you love about this time of year.

Just one?  I love the fresh vegetables, long days, cool nights, time off with family, a (slightly) slower pace.

3. Share one thing you do NOT love about this time of year.

Humidity.

4. How will you spend the remaining days leading up to Autumn?

I am on vacation until August 29, and I'm trying really hard not to think about work right now. But I know that when I get back I will need to hit the ground running--the September calendar is already way too full!

My vacation so far has been a few days in the city, and a week in Vermont. Next up is a week in Maine. The Kid has to go back to work after that, but I still have another week off (what to do then is yet to be determined.) Besides visiting family I've been reading and trying to get back to photography which I've really neglected for the last year.

5. Share a good summer memory.

Sweet Baby J isn't so much a baby anymore!
Spending time with my two adorable grandchildren.
















Baby M is almost 1!
























Bonus: What food says SUMMER to you?


Nothing says summer like a fresh vine ripe tomato, and fresh sweet corn on the cob.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Friday, July 30, 2010

Friday FIve~~Love the one you're with

I haven't done a Friday Five in forevah...I'm not off on Fridays anymore, and I tend to not think of it when I get home from work. But I'm doing this one quickly on my lunch break. 

Name five things you like about where you are living now... and as your bonus - 1 thing you don't like.

As of Thursday, I've lived here 11 months, so I'm a relative short timer here...

1. I like that I am on a commuter rail line to the city. It's a mere two minutes to the train station and then about 2 hours on the train--not bad at all! (although I wouldn't want to do it on a daily basis!)

2. I like the house I live in...built in 1876, it's fairly modest by Victorian standards, but quite spacious to me, and just suits me. 

3. I like my commute: out the door and across the lawn, and I'm there! And so far, the congregation has been very respectful of my privacy. 

4. I like that (contrary to the last place I lived) I can drive 20 minutes in any direction and find anything I might need. Target, WF, TJ's, Ikea, and the like all fairly close by (the minus is also the 20 minute drive...but you can't have everything, right?)

5.  I like that I am close enough to a major university with a divinity school (25 minutes or so) to take advantage of its offerings, as I did earlier this summer when I took two great classes. 


Bonus:  I dislike that although this is technically a "blue" state, in my area people are generally MUCH more conservative than I am. I don't think everyone needs to agree with me, but I find that I have to be pretty careful about voicing opinions (I avoid politics at work as a general rule, but outside of work as well...) and I hear some pretty outrageous comments from time to time. It kind of wears on me after living in 3 places that were by and large pretty liberal. 

Tuesday, July 06, 2010

Sweltering...and other random bits of "yes, I'm still here!'

So for the first time since I started blogging almost 5 years ago, I went a whole month without posting anything at all. Not intentionally, really. It's funny how I think I have a routine going, and then I look up one day and it's totally changed. Blogging used to be how I spent my evenings, reading and writing. And then came FB and my time was divided between the two, as were my cyberfriends. And then I started watching more tv shows on-line, especially since the Kid went off to college, so time was divided between that and FB. And fewer and fewer of the old "gang" of bloggers I felt part of are writing, and I suddenly realized I was going days without ever checking the blogs. And so it goes...

The latest piece of my routine to morph is that the Kid convinced me that I should watch Lost on netfix. Mind you, the whole six years it was on the air I never saw but one episode, from season 4 I think, and I so totally didn't get it that I never went back. But I started from the beginning this time,  and b/c it is on netflix I can watch one episode after another. In fact, in the last month I've watched three seasons, and I'm a third of the way through season four. Yeah.

 Oh, the sweltering part?  I went to the city Sunday after church to see the Kid who is working there this summer. Hot town, summer in the city and all that. Came home on a midday train--it's hotter here than it was there--103 when I got here. I don't use my central a/c if I can help it, but today seemed like it might be a good time so I turned it on. And the temperature has not budged a single degree. No repair person available until tomorrow. Sigh. Hopefully it will cool down enough tonight that fans will suffice.

Hot as it was, I loved being in the city for a couple of days. I've been in twice this summer, not to do anything special necessarily, but just as a getaway. The Kid is staying with friends while he works there this summer, and this time he and I went out to eat at a couple of favorite places, walked around in Brooklyn Sunday night, avoided the fireworks crowds,  and spent yesterday afternoon at the Museum of Natural History where it was cool. And crowded. Coolness was at a premium, I guess :) but it was okay. 

Vacation is in a month! And I am really ready for it.  Spending time in Vermont and Maine is always the best part of summer!

Work is good. I'm in such a better than this time last year in so many ways, but that is probably subject for another post.

So what's new with you?  Anybody still stopping by?

Saturday, July 03, 2010

A Sermon for Independence Day

The Sixth Sunday after Pentecost
July 4, 2010  Independence Day
Matthew 5:43-48

"But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be children of your Father in heaven. . . Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect."

Today’s gospel, the one set in the lectionary for Independence Day, comes from one of my favorite parts of scripture—the Sermon on the Mount, that long discourse in Matthew’s gospel where Jesus lays out for his audience just what it means to be a disciple. For me, it is truly a handbook for being a Christian. Not everyone views it that way, of course. Figures as illustrious as Martin Luther have argued that the Sermon on the Mount puts discipleship out of the reach of ordinary people by setting an impossibly high standard for behavior, what with the “turn the other cheek” and “love your enemies” and “do not store up for yourselves treasure on earth.” I prefer to think of it as setting the bar high; as giving us an ideal to strive for: being perfect as our heavenly father is perfect.  And although we could spend our time lamenting that of course we will never be perfect, or excusing ourselves by saying that since we will never be perfect we may as well not try, it seems to me to be more profitable to strive for becoming more like the God who created us than to dwell in the ways we fall short.

There is no doubt that Jesus does set high standards for us. He begins the portion of the Sermon on the Mount from which today’s gospel is drawn by claiming that he has come not to abolish the law and the prophets but rather to fulfill them, and then he outlines a number of different ways that his followers are called to go beyond what the law would demand in their relationship with others. It’s easy, he concludes, to care about the folks we like, but if we are to enter into God’s kingdom, we must also care about those we DON’T like, and the ones who don’t like us. No small task, that.

Jesus is not the only one to set high standards. The founders of our country did so as well, and as we celebrate our Independence Day we do well to recall just what those standards are:

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

In a society in which the divine right of kings was largely unquestioned, in which there were clear social hierarchies and in which power was invested in those with means, these ideals were, like the injunctions in the Sermon on the Mount, almost impossibly out of reach.  And the rich irony is, even the author of these words and the endorsers of the declaration from which they came applied them selectively. Most of the signers of the Declaration of Independence owned human slaves. It took almost 100 years before black men in America were accorded the right to vote and close to another 100 years before it was safe for them to do so. And although women asked for the vote in 1848, they didn’t receive it until 1920, almost 150 years after those words were enshrined in the founding document of our country.

The founding fathers, you see, were defining “all men” as “people like me.” To be fair, they were no different from the major philosophers, theologians and scientists of the day in believing that white males were the epitome of creation, and white males were the group they defined as “all men.” The beauty of what they wrote, of the principle they established, however, is that it is expansive and inclusive enough to take in all of humanity, as we come to grasp that humanity is not limited by gender or race or orientation or any of the others human categories we use to make sense of the world. Just as we must care about those whom we don’t like, so too must we uphold the rights of those who may not be just like us.

And though we’ve made great strides, we still struggle with both standards. We seek to include all of humanity under the umbrella of liberty and justice, even as we nit-pick and argue about how to do so. And we labor as well with loving those we really don’t like—loving our enemies, loving those who don’t see the world we do, loving those whose desires for us are not always good ones.

But love them we must. Care about them we must. Because God does—God loves each and every one of us without prerequisite. God makes the rain to fall on the just and unjust alike.  And our call is to be perfect as our heavenly father is perfect.

We won’t make it, of course, not in this lifetime, just as this great nation will not live up to its ideals of liberty for all. But that’s no reason not to try, not to strive to be the people we are called to be. As a nation that means endeavoring to be true champions of justice and beacons of equality; it means welcoming the tired, huddled masses who yearn to breathe free; it means defending the rights of the least among us.

And as followers of Jesus, children of God, it means aiming always to live into the image of God in which we were created; it means turning the other cheek when we’d rather fight back; caring for others who might not care for us in return; giving to other when we’d rather hoard for ourselves; it means loving God and our neighbor and putting that love ahead of everything else.

Easy?  Not at all! But think about this: We do this for the God who created us to delight in us and who loved us enough to become incarnate among us, to live and die among us, to take on our pain and our suffering. We do this for the God who continues to love us beyond measure even we when we are utterly unlovable. We do this so that the Kingdom of God might flourish now and forever. Is that not reason enough to try?

Amen.





Sunday, May 02, 2010

Look! Babies!

I think there are three babies; I'm still working on getting better pix...if you click on the last one you can see little open beaks waiting for papa to feed them.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Optimism

~I put out grape jelly and oranges for orioles today; now to see if any orioles pass by this way!

Monday, April 19, 2010

Random bits of Monday

~For the third weekend in a row, the weekend was jam packed with extra work-related stuff. It's all been good, but exhausting. This weekend was the busiest of all, with consecration of our new bishop, which was awesome, and a reception to meet a visiting bishop from a South American diocese with which we have a mission relationship. 

~I miss having two days a week off. And two days in a row would be even better. But I don't see it happening.

~Although I accept friend requests on FB from parishioners, I think I may have to stop actually looking at their pages. I really don't want to know if they happen to be fans of Glen Beck. Argh.

~I went to Borders this afternoon, and everywhere I turned there were books about "doomsday" in America. Get a grip people. We survived 8 years of GWB. I didn't expect this kind of hysteria now. It's scarry!

~For the first time in about 15 years I live in an area where a significant proportion of the population is more conservative than I--much more conservative in some cases. Didn't expect that in New England. And don't really like it. I mean, I can be friends with people who disagree with me politically, but some of the stuff I hear is over the top.

~I made Ianqui's Balsamic Brussel Sprouts tonight and they were delicious!

~Last week I bought a new scale. And weighed myself for the first time in at least 3 years. On the one hand my weight was only a couple of pounds more than last time I weighed, which I suspected because my clothes still fit, but on the other hand, I weigh the most I ever have. Sigh. I've been trying to eat intentionally and healthily this week, but I need to work harder and try to shed some pounds.

~And that will mean exercise of some sort. Ugh.

~Mama Cardinal is still sitting on her nest.  I can't help but think that it must get boring!

Friday, April 16, 2010

Nesting

 Can you see her?  Mama Cardinal has a nest right outside my kitchen window. Not a great picture, but taken from inside, looking out into the bush where the nest is hidden away.

Monday, April 05, 2010

ahhhh...

How about this one?

hmmmm.....

So I like this new template, I think, but there are two things messed up that I can't seem to fix...the posts are dated (even though in the layout it says they should be) and the navbar is missing (also seems to be there in on the layout page. The former is bad for the long term; the latter is just annoying because I have to open blogger in a new tab to access my profile. Ick. If I can't fix these, it may be on to another template.

EDITED : Uh, yeah so I fixed the first problem and so mucked up the template trying to fix the second that I am sadly back to the drawing board. Which means, chances are you never SAW the new template now linked to above, which was quite lovely. This is, I think, "above my pay grade."

Sunday, April 04, 2010

It's a double-edged sword

So I've been reflecting a bit in odd moments about this state of living-aloneness that I find myself in now. Between FB and blogs, I keep up with a number of clergy-moms* and I find myself thinking about how hard it is to balance it all, especially in this wow-it's-busier-than-Christmas week, this week during which (beginning with Palm Sunday and ending today) I presided over 13 services and prepared 7 sermons, among other things. And I'm surprisingly torn in how I feel about it.

I have, after all, been in the single parenting shoes. For most of my parenting years--as a student, as a professor, as a student again, and then as a priest. I KNOW the kind of tight-rope walking that is required to do-it-all, even if you can't ever really do-it-all. I have less experience (sadly, far less) doing it with a spouse/partner. It's tough, either way.

And so I find myself thinking how much easier it is since I only have myself to think about on the home front--no one else's schedule to consider, no one else's meals or laundry or needs to worry about. If I need to stay at work until 10:00 pm to finish bulletins after the Maundy Thursday service, well, who will know the difference? And if I find a morning when I can sleep just a half hour later to prepare myself for the marathon that is Holy Week, I'm not throwing anyone else out of sync.

On the other hand, this week, more than most since I've embarked on living alone, I've missed having someone else around. The mere presence of someone else to keep me grounded, to make me go home at a reasonable hour because there is someone there who needs me or who cares if I'm there. Selfishly perhaps, I've wished more than once this week that there was someone else to get groceries, to make sure there was dinner cooked when I got home late, just to say "glad you're home."

After the last service today, the marathon run (successfully, I might add), the bulletins recycled, the lights out, the door locked, I needed a nap more than anything. And I took one--a long one, grateful that I didn't need to worry about dinner for anyone. But at the same time, I missed my kids, I missed family, I wished for eggs to dye and hunt, and dinner to eat together, and a collective wow-we-made-it-through-the-week sigh of relief.

It really is a double-edged sword.

*truth be told, this applies to academic moms, too, in a different context; really any working-outside-the-home moms

Monday, March 22, 2010

Yes. We. Did.

Finally passed health care reform!

Of course, it's not the reform we'd really hoped for. It's not the reform we really need--not all of it, anyway. There's no public option. Far too many compromises. But it's a start. A much needed, very overdue start.

And as relieved as I am that it passed, I am almost more grateful that the Democrats in Congress finally got a spine and acted. Come on, people! Stand up for what you believe in!

Finally, message to the mass media: Many of us are GRATEFUL for this health care reform. We welcome having health care reform "rammed down our throats,"(ugh, I am so sick of hearing that!), or more delicately phrased, passed, so pay attention to us, too, not just the naysayers.

Monday, March 01, 2010

Housecleaning

I'm totally bored with the way my blog looks, hence the new template. I'm not completely happy with this one, but blogger doesn't give you many choices. And I need a new picture in my header; the current one captured perfectly where I used to live, but it doesn't fit where I am now.

The other thing I need to do is edit my blog roll. So many of the bloggers on it aren't writing any more, but I hate to get rid of the links. Silly, but I don't like breaking connections literally or figuratively. But life does go on, and people move on, and that's that.

Meanwhile, the sun is trying to peak out here, and it's windy and cold. Very much like March--and how did it get to be March already?

I am so glad it's not this time last year.

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Lenten Discipline

Taking on a Lenten discipline is something I preach about every year. I write about it in the newsletter and in our special mailing for Lent. I provide materials meant to support such disciplines. Yet I am terrible at maintaining such a discipline myself. Oh, from time to time I manage something; in 2003, along with several of my seminary classmates I gave up sweets, especially chocolate. In 2007 I finished my transition to becoming a vegetarian by giving up eating chicken (and didn't resume at the end of Lent), and in 2008 I gave up Diet Coke. But last year my Lenten discipline--which I actually spent more time thinking through than usual--was a spectacular FAIL. Half way through Lent I publicly acknowledged that it just wasn't going to happen. And given my stress level last year, that may have been the healthiest choice.

Nonetheless, I feel a little hypocritical about the whole thing, and so this year I resolved to do better. Only then Ash Wednesday came and I was still dithering about what to do. SO when my seminary friend Caffeinated Priest listed a set of spiritual exercises, one for each day of Lent, it seemed like a wonderful idea to take them on myself.

I like these exercises because they are thoughtful and intentional, and they cover a whole gamut of behaviors and practices. Many of them would make excellent practices to adopt regularly. Each of them requires thought. And mostly they don't focus on giving up things.

Intellectually I know that Lenten disiciplines aren't just about giving up something. And if you give up something it should be because it's a healthy choice to make, or because doing so makes your life better or allows you time to spend on other things more important. Not to prove that you can--to yourself or to others--which is how it often ends up feeling, at least to me, and that is just not the point. So this year, I'm not giving anything up for the entirety of Lent. But even though I've gotten a late start (and I won't make lame excuses for that), beginning today I'm going to follow these spiritual practices, and I'm going to try to blog each day on home I'm doing.

Today's exercise is: Read the beatitudes, Matthew 4:25-5:10.

Matthew is my favorite gospel, and the Sermon on the Mount is one of my favorite parts of that gospel, but funnily enough, the beatitudes, which are the opening verses of the Sermon on the Mount are NOT favorites--partly because people are sometimes too glib about them. So I've read today, but I think some rereading and reflection is in order.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Friday Five~~FAB February

1. When February comes along, how do you feel about the coming month?

~It's a meh month for me. Not my favorite, but not my least fave either. When I lived down south, in February I would start to anticipate spring in February, but it is WAY too early for that in New England!

2. What memories do you have about Valentine's Day? Are you doing anything to observe it this year?

~Valentine's Day was fun when I was young enough to decorate my "mailbox" and make valentines for my friends, but as an adult I find it highly overrated, and no, I'm not observing. It used to make me kind of sad, highlighting as it did my singleness, but I'm mostly over that now

3. It is interesting that Monday's "Presidents Day" is not officially called that in every state. It is a U.S. federal holiday entitled "Washington's Birthday." Which is your favorite president and why?

~I remember when Washington's Birthday and Lincoln's Birthday were observed on Feb. 12 and 22. Guess I'm officially old.

~It's easier to say my least favorite Presidents (GW Bush, Nixon, Reagan) than my favorite (Obama, I guess,because he comes closer to sharing my liberal ideals than anyone in recent memory, although I think highly of Jimmy Carter, more as a person than as a president).

4. Will you be celebrating Shrove Tuesday or Mardi Gras? How?

~Yes, I will, with a Pancake Supper and Mardi Gras celebration at church. And we'll burn palms to make ashes for the next day, play games, and put away the "alleluias" until Easter. Lots of fun.

5. Any other ways to celebrate in February?

~Not so much. Except for Shrove Tuesday and the beginning of Lent, it's a pretty quiet month.

Monday, January 25, 2010

Okay, about that submarine...

Mibi asked me about the submarine I mentioned in my last post--honestly, it's not nearly as exciting as it could be.

As it happens, TFoMC was in the Navy, and served in submarines--Fleet Ballistic Missile submaines (FBMs or "boomers")to be exact. Which meant, among other things, that he was gone for a stretch of three months at a time, and then on land for three months--on and off, on and off, for a three year sea rotation. Although we were stationed in Rhett Butler's City, his boat tied up farther south in the peach state. So when the boat came in, families would often travel down to meet it and we were invited to come aboard.

Submarines are not spacious quarters by any means. And they smell funky--especially after they've been submerged for close to three months full of sailors who have to take "navy showers." And you have to climb up and down skinny ladders, and go through narrow doors. Frankly, they'd make me quite claustrophobic if I had to be on one for very long. But it was definitely interesting to see how the guys lived, and to imagine what it would be like to be sealed up inside, deep beneath the sea.

At one point the boat (and subs are "boats", not "ships" -- don't ask me why, but submariners are quite explicit about that) came into the base at Rhett Butler's City, and families were invited on for a "dependent's cruise." I was nervous but willing to go, but the weather turned stormy, and the event was cancelled and never rescheduled. Stormy weather doesn't normally phase a sub--they are below it literally--but you have to get out far enough offshore to submerge, and I guess they didn't want a bunch of seasick civilians before they got that far. Honestly I think I was both relieved and disappointed to miss it!

Friday, January 22, 2010

Friday Five~Planes, trains, and automobiles



1) What was the mode of transit for your last trip?

Car--to Vermont at Christmas

2) Have you ever traveled by train?

Yes, often. Trains are my very favorite way to travel, and I take them whenever I can. The longest train trip I've taken was from NYC to Greenville SC, but I'd love to take a cross country train trip someday.

3) Do you live in a place with public transit, and if so, do you use it?

Not in my town, but there is public transit in the region. You can take the bus to nearby Ivy League City (although I'm not sure how convenient it is). And you can get the commuter rail from here to several destinations. You can take the long distance bus from two nearby towns,and you can get Amtrak from Ivy League City. So not bad at all.

I'm pleasantly surprised that the Kid can get to his college from here by public transit (bus) and from there to Beantown by bus or train, given that his college is out in the boonies. And he does travel that way frequently.

4) What's the most unusual vehicle in which you've ever traveled?

Ummmm.....not sure I've ever traveled in anything that unusual. But I have been on a submarine. Didn't get to go out to sea on it because the weather turned bad.

5) What's the next trip you're planning to take?

To NYC for the day, soon. And by train. :)

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

I don't live there anymore, but...

I am incredibly sad and disappointed in the outcome of the Massachusetts senate election. For a blue state (some would claim the bluest state) to elect a Republican to take Ted Kennedy's senate seat is a travesty. I just don't understand how it could happen.

Oh, I know...Coakley didn't campaign well, the independents came out in favor of the Republican ...and so on. But I still don't understand it, on many levels. I don't understand people being against health care reform. I find the quote that I hear so often that it's being "crammed down our throats" ludicrous.

And you can't live where I did in Massachusetts without being infected by the Kennedy mystique--for better or for worse. I may just be an old lefty liberal, but as I've probably said here before, it delighted me to have Ted Kenndy for my senator for the time I lived in MA. I know some people think it's ridiculous to say it was 'his' seat, but still, after all he did for health care reform, for it to turn out this way....well, it's sad and depressing.

Sunday, January 03, 2010

Brrrrrr.....

~It is cold outside, and I'm learning that means it's cold inside, too. My house is drafty, at least in some places! Especially the "sunporch" which won't stay warm no matter what I do. Doesn't matter too much now, because I have very little furniture there now, but it does mean the heat runs all the time TRYING to get it warm.

~I've never understood why, if the thermostat is always set at the same temperature, say 67, it feels colder inside when it is colder outside....I mean, it's still 67 inside....but it definitely feels colder. Weird.

~It has snowed off and on for the last couple of days. And I am amazed at how many times the snowplow went up and down my street today. I live in a residential area, but at the corner of two streets that seem to be used as short cuts to get to a major road. And I'm at the top of a steep hill. So I am glad they plow a lot, but it is still surprising.

~I'm glad I have new boots and a new down coat...I promised myself last year that if I stayed in New England I would get a new down coat this winter and I found one when I was Christmas shopping. It is very cozy. And I got these boots last week when I was in Vermont. Just in time, apparently.

Saturday, January 02, 2010

Moving on

No, I'm not going anywhere. Not geographically, anyway; I've already done that. But in reflecting on the new year, and the hopes that I have for it, and inspired once again by profgrrrrl I have chosen "moving on" as my theme for 2010.

That might seem like a strange choice, given that I just went through the upheaval of accepting a new position and moving to a new place, and I'm beginning to feel at home here. But the thing is, the longer I'm here, the more I realize that I didn't just move geographically, I didn't just start a new position--my whole life has changed (see last year's theme!) and it's affected me in all sorts of ways, some I anticipated and some I didn't. Some of the changes came off just as I thought they would, but others --well, they took twists and turns I never expected; I went down a dark hole before I came back out in the light.

Now I am in a good place--literally and figuratively. But I have to figure out how to BE in this place. The job part, as challenging as it is to become a rector for the first time, will work itself out, and I am grateful to have a good support system in place to help me with that. It's all the rest I have to work on. For years I defined myself as a mother--and as a single mother at that. It wasn't my whole identity, but it was a large part of it. Now my kids have all flown the nest. They are still around of course, and they still need me (I'm relieved to know) but in very different ways. I have space now to "do my own thing"-- I just have to figure out what that thing is!

So I'll be moving on--in part I hope that means I'll get my body moving more. I've NEVER liked exercise. As a kid I wanted nothing more than a good book and a quiet place to read it, and that still holds true. The one time in my life when I was actually fit (and trim) was 20 years ago when I took up running. And found out I actually liked it. But after the Kid was born, I never went back to it, for lots of (mostly bad) reasons. I'm not sure my knees and back would take to running these days, so I tell myself I'll walk. I walked a lot when I lived in the city, but I'm less motivated elsewhere. Beyond walking, what? Yoga? Pilates? Weights? Theoretically, I'd like to try all of those, but the thought of going into a gym and exposing my ineptitude (and my body) gives me chills. That is something I need to overcome.

Moving on might mean trying out something new. I've wanted to learn to throw pots for a long time; maybe now is the time to find a place to do it. Moving on might mean rediscovering things I used to enjoy. I've let my photography go in the last year; it was something I really took pleasure in for a while, and I've been toying with the idea of resurrecting my photoblog. I used to do a lot of handwork--mostly counted cross stitch. Or there's knitting, which I've said for the last few years I'd like to do.

Moving on means continuing to figure out how to parent adult children, and how to grandparent We all have demanding jobs and tricky schedules, but I want to find ways to stay in touch and involved. Moving on means finding ways to develop new friendships, too. I have lots of friends, but most of them aren't around here. Boundary issues with my congregation makes developing friendships difficult, too--how do I cultivate friendships outside of church?

Moving on definitely will include learning to use my time better. I've never been one to strictly structure my time; I'm much too much of a "P" (as in INFP, mbti) for that. But the rhythms of the workday and work week are much different here--staff schedules are different, work demands are different, home demands are different--and I've struggled to figure out how best to take advantage of the time I have. I've already thought about planning to set side one day for reading and study, a day without scheduled appointments, and I need to figure out how best to use that day productively. And as "head of staff" I have to learn to think and plan farther ahead than I ever have. I'm a "big picture" person, so that appeals to me in some ways, but as a "P" it's also difficult to make too many concrete plans far into the future, so that will be a challenge.

And moving on might mean finding ways to indulge in my nerdy passion for taking classes, being involved in educational pursuits. Geographically I'm situated 20 minutes from one seminary and a doable train ride from another. I need to take advantage of that, not just dream about it.

There are more ways I can be moving on, I'm sure. But this is a good start. Now I just have to follow through.

Friday, January 01, 2010

Friday Five~A fresh start

From the RGBPs:

1. What will you gladly leave behind in 2009?

All of the angst...so much stress related to my job, finding a new position amidst all that. And all the negativity that went along with it. Nor will I let myself be defined by that experience....letting it all go.

2. What is the biggest challenge of 2010 for you?

Adjusting to my new life here. I love my new position, and I'm (mostly) getting used to living alone. But I still need to work out a good rhythm for using my time well, and develop some out-of-work activities. I have lots of friends--but none of them are HERE and I'm not so good at having a social life all on my own.

3. Is there anything that you simply need to hand to God and say "all will be well, for you are with me"?

Everything. Really. The biggest lesson I learned from last year is that I am not in control. I can make decisions on how to act, and I must do that thoughtfully and responsibly, but beyond that I am not in control.

4. If you could only achieve one thing in 2010 what would it be?

World peace.

Or short of that, a sense of peace and contentment in my life, and well-being in my congregation.

Or more specific yet, see some growth in my congregation.

5. Post a picture, poem or song that sums up your prayer for the year ahead....

MY LORD GOD, I have no idea where I am going.
I do not see the road ahead of me.
I cannot know for certain where it will end.
Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think that I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so.
But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact please you.
And I hope I have that desire in all that I am doing.
I hope that I will never do anything apart from that desire.
And I know that if I do this you will lead me by the right road though I may know nothing about it.
Therefore will I trust you always though I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death.
I will not fear, for you are ever with me, and you will never leave me to face my perils alone.
~Thomas Merton

Thursday, December 31, 2009

2010!

It's hard to believe that we're marking the beginning of the second decade of this century! I remember clearly where I was and what I was doing 10 years ago as we awaited the dawn of 2000. It was the time of Y2k....seems so silly now, but some people took it so seriously. The Kid and I were the only ones home for new year's eve (I don't remember where the girls were), and we played games on the computer to pass the time until midnight--no blogs or Facebook then to keep us occupied. At midnight we watched the time turn over (correctly) on our computer, and had some sparkling cider to toast the new year.

This year it's the two of us again. The Kid was supposed to be away visiting his high school friends, but he woke up sick this morning and had to delay his departure. So we're sitting here with our laptops, awaiting 2010, and we'll have sparkling cider again. Maybe I'll try out my new popcorn maker, too.

So much has happened in the last ten years. At the beginning of 2000 I was going up for tenure, and discerning my call to the priesthood. My three older kids were all in college, and the Kid was in 3rd grade. Now the girls are both married and mothers, the Kid is in college and Elder Son is in grad school. My father, mother-in-law, and father-in-law all died of cancer, and my mother has moved into assisted living. 9/11 happened, and I went off to seminary and was ordained. I've moved three times. I've made new friends and reconnected with old ones. And all that just barely conveys how my life has changed. I wonder what the next 10 years will bring?

Happy New Year everyone. May 2010 be filled with good things for all.

2009--the good, the bad, and the ugly

Where to start? I think I'll go in reverse order:

The Ugly:

~I will remember 2009 in large part by the truly abominable behavior I experienced from some colleagues, primarily my former boss. As I've reflected over it the last few months, I still find myself not quite believing how reprehensible some of it was, and how completely unnecessary. But if nothing else, I learned a lot about how NOT to interact with people, how NOT to manage staff, and about how I react under stress--both positively and negatively.

The Bad:

~Job stress. Lots of it, much remaining unbloggable. Really, it's remarkable how much that defined my life for the first two-thirds of the year (and see the Ugly, above). While things had been stressful for much of my tenure there, I couldn't have foreseen how hard the last year there would turn out to be.

~Moving stress--no matter if the move is positive, packing and moving is HARD physically and psychologically. I've done it many times, and I know how to get it done efficiently, but it never gets easier.

The Good:

~Family--Baby J thrives, and I was privileged to baptize her at the Easter Vigil. WW got married, and Mr. WW arrived from Nepal in time for Baby M's birth. The Kid graduated from high school, and survived his first semester of college. I got used to living alone.We had a wonderful Thanksgiving together in my great new house, and celebrated Christmas together in VT.

~Friends--took care of me in so many ways when I was totally stressed out, and rejoiced with me when things turned around. I discovered deep wells of caring and concern and generosity of spirit, sometimes from completely unexpected places. And I reconnected with some old friends via FB.

~Colleagues--rallied around me when I needed them. My clergy coach and his wife went above and beyond the call of duty to support and encourage me. I don't know where I'd be without them.

~A wonderful new parish--my new church has been warm and welcoming and seems truly happy to have me here. There are many challenges to face here, and I know the honeymoon will not last forever, but it is so nice to start out positively. I am so happy to be here, and I feel really lucky and blessed that I ended up in a good place.

And that's 2009 in a nutshell.

December!

Where did the month go?

After NaBloPoMo, I had every intention of continuing to blog, and I found myself thinking occassionally, "That'll blog!" but somehow, the posts never got written. So here's the month in random bits:

~The month started with a wonderful liturgy installing me as rector and celebrating our new ministry together as a parish. Some of my favorite people from my former parish traveled up to attend, and my clergy coach preached. It was a truly fantastic evening. And the next day was my birthday.

~I managed NOT to have the Christmas blues--I can't remember the last time that happened. Really. I can't remember.

~But I have to say that when Christmas Eve came, it took me a bit to feel the magic. Church on Christmas Eve is different here. Not bad, necessarily, but different.

~No Christmas pageant this year, and I'm surprised how much I missed it. But I did invite all the kids at the 5:00 service to come up front, and I read them the Christmas story from a Tomie DePaola book--and I saved the magi part for our Epiphany celebration on January 6.

~Another priest on FB who is in a new church remarked how much easier things would be when she wasn't doing everything for the first time. I think that is a wise observation. Just figuring out how things are "customarily" done is exhausting sometimes. And balancing the whole "of course you can do whatever you want" v. "we can't change anything!" scenario requires a lot of ....tact, to say the least.

~I had presents bought earlier than ever (but not that early by some standards, I suppose) and got the tree up in a timely manner, but I still found myself with too much to do on Christmas Eve. Which makes no sense, because I had so much less to do this year at work than last.

~The Kid and I went to Vermont on Christmas day as soon as I finished church to have Christmas with the NSLS and WW families. Baby J has a new kitchen and loves to cook. "Sit, Amma!" she says, and "Cook!" Then she gives me an ice cream cone. And Baby M is growing fast!

~Unbelievably, my camera never came out of my camera bag while I was away. Don't know how that happened. I did take a few pix with my phone but it's not the same.

~Too many deaths around Christmas....a good friend's father died on the 23rd, a priest colleague from my former diocese dies on December 24th, as did someone from my former parish in VT. I went to her funeral on Tuesday. It was the first time I'd been back to that parish since the week I was ordained as a deacon, and it was good to reconnect as we celebrated P's long and full life.

~We made it home yesterday between snow storms--here and there. I seem to have lost my driving-in-the-snow mojo, and I need to get it back. I live at the top of a hill, and I worry about getting up (and down!) when the roads are messy, although I did okay when I went to get groceries this morning.

~I won't be sorry to see 2009 out. What a year--the good, the bad, and the ugly. At least it ended on an upbeat. That should be a separate post, actually.

~What will 2010 bring in the blogosphere? When I click through my blogroll, I see so many abandoned or taken down blogs. There are voices I miss. But people move on....that's life. It will be interesting to see how blogging/fb/twitter play out in the next year.

Monday, December 14, 2009

Ding dong, the witch is dead

I spent the whole day today out shopping--I went to a very large mall in one direction because the Apple store is there, and I needed my computer worked on. And when I finished up there (some four hours later!) I went to Whole Foods in the opposite direction. Driving home it hit me--it's December 14, most of my shopping is done, and I don't have the Christmas grumpies yet! How did THAT happen?

Seriously, it's the first time that I can remember that the whole Christmas to-do hasn't depressed me to some extent--whether it was the shopping or work or what. Of course, there are still 11 days to go. And I have tons of work to do--sermons, bulletins, buying and decorating the tree, wrapping the gifts. I could still succumb. But something feels different this year--it feels lighter somehow. And I'm not complaining!

Tuesday, December 01, 2009

Monday, November 30, 2009

NaBloPoMo NoMo

It's November 30, and I made it--I posted every day, although there was a lot of filler. (I am reminded of my friend D's blog title On Not Being a Sausage, which comes from the teachings of Silvanus: "Do not be a sausage which is full of useless things," and feeling very sausagey myself!) It was a discipline if nothing else.

They say that the older you are, the faster time goes by, and I must say that I am finding that to be true. It seems impossible that the whole month of November has passed already. December will be even faster, I know, with the rush to Christmas. I bought my first Christmas present today, which puts me (for the moment) ahead of where I usually am this time of the year. And I got the Advent calendars out of the attic (I have several reusable ones.) Liturgically, Advent began yesterday, but Advent calendars usually run for the 24 days in December, so tomorrow will be Day 1. My concession to Christmas decorating is to hang one of the Advent calendars on the back door. I need to find something Adventy for the front door, too.

Even though NaBloPoMo is no mo, I am going to keep writing. Maybe I'll even have something to say :)

Sunday, November 29, 2009

Fall pictures

I took these about a month ago...decided to quit futzing around with Photoshop for now and just used iPhoto to edit these. Not as sophisticated, but good enough for now.



This one is much better if you click on it to enlarge it.

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Lame NaBloPoMo post

It's been a great Thanksgiving weekend, but mow I'm waaaaaay behind on writing my sermon. However, it's also almost the end of the month, and I'll be darned if I'm going to let NaBloPoMo go at this point, so here it is, my lame, last minute, placeholder post.

Not like my last few posts have been much either. I think I was half asleep when I wrote a couple of them. But I shall endeavor to finish the month with a flourish if I can!

Friday, November 27, 2009

Christmas is coming

Last night I looked out the front windows to see Christmas lights in all directions--'candles' in the windows directly across the street, lights outlining the roof line at another, light-adorned shrubbery at at third--everwhere I looked were Christmas decorations. Apparently all my neighbor used Thanksgiving Day as an opportune time to get ready for Christmas.

Actually these weren't the first decorations I'd seen; last week while driving to get a haircut I passed a yard adorned on the one side with a huge inflatable turkey, and on the other with an equally large (and obnoxious) Santa.

I guess I'm old-fashioned; certainly my outlook is affected by my occupation, but it's also shaped by tradition, and that tradition holds that Christmas BEGINS on December 24, and culminates on the Feast of the Epiphany, January 6. Clearly I am out of step with 'popular culture.' But oh, how I wshed morre people observed Advent. I wish we could celebrate Thanksgiving without being caught up in the materialism and hoopla of the season to comes--things that really have very little to do with the real reason for Christmas.

Thursday, November 26, 2009

What's for dinner?

Thanksgiving at chez Rev. Dr Mom:

Roasted turkey
Cornbread dressing
Homemade cranberry sauce
Mashed potatoes
Sauteed green-beans
Roasted sweet potatoes and onions
Pumpkin cheesecake
Pecan pie

All delicious!

How about you?

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Countdown to Thanksgiving

~Kid retrieved from college-check

~Groceries bought--check--after trips to two grocery stores + Tarjay, I think we're set.

~Turkey brining--check

~Pumpkin cheesecake--in the fridge, thanks to NSLS

~Pecan pie--ingredients at the ready for baking tomorrow

~Thanksgiving service--done!

~Happy Thanksgiving Eve!

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Monday, November 23, 2009

Random bits, Facebook style

~Rev. Dr. Mom wishes there were more days between Thanksgiving and the first Sunday in Advent.

~Rev. Dr. Mom wonders why she thought it was a good idea to host the ecumenical Thanksgiving service....and who thought it was a good idea to schedule her celebration of new ministry the very next week. Special bulletins the same week as the newsletter? Not a good idea.

~Rev. Dr. Mom has been crazily baby-proofing her house in anticipation of a visit from Baby J (and Baby M, but he can't get into anything yet.)

~Rev. Dr. Mom is picking the Kid up for Thanksgiving break tomorow--hurrah!

~Rev. Dr. Mom's car needs a new catalytic converter :(

~Rev. Dr. Mom is happy that her new cleaning person is coming tomorrow!

~Rev. Dr. Mom really needs to go to bed now!

Sunday, November 22, 2009

NaBloPoMo: It ain't what it used to be

This is my fourth year doing NaBloPoMo (yeah, I was shocked when I realized that, too!) And while I'm glad I'm writing again (even if it hasn't been all that interesting) the experience this year is very different from previous years, especially 2006 and 2007.

I realize in retrospect that I began blogging at what must have been close to the height of the "blogging craze" at least in my little corner of the blogosphere. I quickly found my place in a group of bloggers that were at the intersection of academic, mommy and clergy blogs. So when I did NaBloPoMo the first two times, I already had a group of readers, and I somehow attracted more--my numbers went up both of those years, especially 2007. Last year? Not so much, and this year not at all. I realize I lost most of my readers when I quit blogging last spring, but truthfully, I think readership is down mostly because people have moved on....they're spending more time on FB and Twitter, or they've moved and changed jobs in ways that has impacted their blogging, or their kids have grown older and they're less comfortable blogging about their lives, or they've just lost interest. All of this is natural and normal. And I've had my own blogging "identity crises."

And of course, it's not all about the numbers. But the reality is that I miss many of the voices that were here, people I met here and whom I read regularly. I "know" some of them on FB which is great, but I still miss what felt like a sort of community. And reading status updates keeps me in touch, but I miss the good writing, even when it was on relatively trivial topics.

My life is really different now, too and I've been thinking about how or if that affects my blogging. I'm not quitting yet, but we'll see where this all takes me after NaBloPoMo ends.

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Ted Kennedy, faith and politics

Following various links today while doing some research for my sermon, I came across a blog with this clip of Ted Kennedy speaking at Jerry Falwell's Liberty College (now University). It just so happens that I started reading Ted Kennedy's memoir True Compass a couple of days ago, and I find it surprisingly compelling. I've always respected Kennedy (while, yes, acknowledging his many flaws) and you can't live where I did for the last few years without being infected at least a little by the Kennedy mystique, whether you admire or revile them. One of the things that strikes me in the memoir is Kennedy's frequent references to the importance of his faith in shaping his world view--something that I share with him to a great degree. So I found this passage interesting. At some point I need to look up the rest of this speech and see where he goes with it.

Friday, November 20, 2009

Friday Five~Thanksgiving thoughts


The Cure

Lying around all day
with some strange new deep blue
weekend funk, I'm not really asleep

when my sister calls
to say she's just hung up

from talking with Aunt Bertha

who is 89 and ill but managing

to take care of Uncle Frank
who is completely bed ridden.

Aunt Bert says
it's snowing there in Arkansas,
on Catfish Lane, and she hasn't been

able to walk out to their mailbox.

She's been suffering

from a bad case of the mulleygrubs.

The cure for the mulleygrubs,

she tells my sister,

is to get up and bake a cake.

If that doesn't do it, put on a red dress.


-Ginger Andrews (from
Hurricane Sisters)



1. What is your cure for the "mulleygrubs"?

Often a nap will do it. Or doing something to distract myself--a good book. Going out for coffee.

2. Where will you be for Thanksgiving?

Right here at chez Rev. Dr. Mom, with NSLS, Mr. LS, and Baby J, WW, Mr. WW, Baby M, and the Kid

3. What foods will be served? Which are traditional for your family?

Free range turkey for the carnivores, cornbread dressing, homemade cranberry sauce, sourdough rolls, roasted veggies, mashed potatoes, pecan pie and pumpkin cheesecake.

The two must-haves no matter what are cornbread dressing and cranberry sauce. Cornbread dressing reminds me of my grandmother, and the cranberry sauce is a favorite of my kids--I've been making it since they were little. This year WW is making sourdough rolls (assuming the starter started) in honor of my mother who made them when my kids were growing up--they were wonderful and perhaps they'll become part of our tradition again.

4. How do you feel about Thanksgiving as a holiday?

I quite like Thanksgiving. These days it gets totally eclipsed by Hallowe'en and Christmas, and I think that's too bad. As a holiday (at least in my family) it has far less baggage than Christmas.

5. In this season of Thanksgiving, what are you grateful for?

I have so much to be grateful for this year--my children and my two beautiful grandchildren, my new position and the wonderful people here, and my clergy coach and his wife, and great friends who have been there for me when things were tough


Thursday, November 19, 2009

It's the end of an era and a sad sad day

One of the institutions at my seminary had nothing (and perhaps everything) to do with theological education. Since 1978 Frankie's Deli has been the place seminarians went to be fed, literally and figuratively. Good cheap food and coffee, a carton of OJ or some cat food when you didn't have time to go to the "real" grocery store, the newspaper on Sunday morning--Frankie's was good for all these things and more--a smile, a joke, a quick hug, a word of encouragement. Frankie was "Papi"--father, uncle and grandfather to us all.

Frankie's Deli is a little hole in the wall kind of place--old, crowded, and always just barely up to code, but it is a place fueled by love--and today on FB seminary alumni and friends got the official word that Frankie's is closing at the end of this year. He has lost his lease. It doesn't surprise me, given the reality of real estate in NYC; Frankie almost lost his lease while I was there, but a last minute negotiation saved him. This time, it appears, there will be no such luck. Frankie is in his 70s, and would likely have to retire at some point, but this forced closing is so sad.

Frankie's is important not only to the seminary community but also to the people of the neighborhood, especially the less affluent residents who like in any NYC neighborhood, are scattered around the area, and concentrated just to the south of the seminary. Like the seminarians they flocked to Frankie's not only because it was cheap and convenient but because Frankie cared about them. Once Frankie got to know you, you would never go without if he could help it.

Frankie, you are an icon of all that is good and right in this world. And Chelsea will not be the same without you.

It's a sad, sad day.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

18


Happy birthday to the Kid, who turns 18 today. Who must register for the draft. And can now vote.

My kids are officially All Grown Up now, I guess--at least legally :) And that is an amazing thing!

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

One more thing

~It's repair week here at chez Rev. Dr. Mom. Cnstruction workers started rebuilding my front porch roof on Monday; when they are done there they will take down some of the hall ceiling to repair the leaky bathtub drain pipe. Tomorrow the computer guy comes to install a new hard drive on my office computer.

~And just when I think things are almost all fixed? My check engine light came on and is staying on. Argh!!!

Monday, November 16, 2009

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Playing in the leaves


I loved playing in the leaves when I was a kid. We lived in the south, so autumn peaked later than it does in New Enlgand. Between Hallowe'en and Thanksgiving I would spend hours raking up piles of leaves, jumping in them, laying in them, smelling their earthy aroma, and feeling their crunch under my feet. I would collect prime specimens for art projects--ironing them between sheets of waxed paper, or placing paper on top of a leaf to do a crayon rubbing. And I would make my way down the side walk shuffling in the leaves, kicking them up in great swirls in my wake.

My kids loved playing in leaves, too. Often they would do that at Grandma's house b/c we didn't always live in places where leaves were abundant. Somewhere I have pictures of the girls buried in leaves, with only their faces showing, giggling and laughing.

I'm blessed with several mature trees around my house and the church here, and their leaves have been brilliant shades of gold before they fall to carpet the grass in brown and wrinkled "old age." Every week the landscaping company comes with its shredder and leaf blower; in their efficient way they make quick work of the blanket of leaves. But as I watched them go about their business last week, it made me a bit sad that no one had played in those leaves.

Saturday, November 14, 2009

Missing the birds

Long-time readers will remember that I fed quite a varied bunch of birds at my last place. When I moved here I set up my feeding station in the back yard and waited to see what would show up. And waited. And waited. For a few weeks it seemed as though there were no birds around. Finally I noticed that the suet was being nibbled on--and sure enough I spotted a hairy woodpecker feasting on it from time to time.

It took about six weeks for one feeder to be emptied--a feeder that was often empty after a day or two before. I've seen a tufted titmouse, and a white-breasted nuthatch, and I think a chickadee. And that's it. No cardinals. No finches. No bluejays. Nada.

The area is largely residential but there are enough woods around that we saw a deer in the field behind the church the first week we were here. I'm afraid the big black cat who lives next door might be part of the problem--he roams freely in my yard and theirs. But I'm hoping that word will spread in the 'hood that there's lots of birdseed to be had here and perhaps some more birds will show up. And I'm really hoping for some orioles next spring!

Friday, November 13, 2009

Friday the 13th

I'm superstitious about some things, but Friday the 13th? Not so much. But I have to say that today--and this week--might be testing that. This week it feels like everything is breaking. I broke the shower head on Monday. My work computer crashed on Wednesday and it turns out that although it is just barely over a year old (just long enough to be out of warranty, of course), it needs a new hard drive. And this afternoon I came home to find water on the floor in the downstairs hallway--looked up to see a big water stain on the ceiling. So water is either seeping in from the front porch roof (which has a broken "yankee gutter" resulting in lots of water damage to the porch roof and is due to be repaired next week) or from the upstairs bathroom--there are no discernible leaks, but the wet ceiling is right under the bathtub, which I take as a bad sign.

Ah, I hope this doesn't become a pattern!

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Short takes

~Wireless printing is awesome. Just saying.

~Feeling normal feels so good after a couple of days of feeling crappy.

~Realized this morning that a bad day here is less stressful than some okay days were at my former places. Really, it's amazing how much lighter everything feels.

~I love November. The leaves are mostly gone, but along the edge of the parking lot is a row of trees that are still golden; they were radiant against a grey and gloomy sky this afternoon.

~Thanksgiving is two weeks from today? Yikes, lots to do between now and then!

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

This week is conspiring against me

After feeling pretty awful Monday and yesterday, I woke up today feeling really good--normal is so nice after crappy, you know? So I went to work full of energy, and vowed to work late since I had a meeting at 6 pm. And then, about 5:00 as I was working away, my computer froze. Nothing would work, so I rebooted it, and guess what--it wouldn't reboot, and I got an error screen (no blue screen of death but maybe you don't get that with Vista?) ARGH! So more than likely everything I did this afternoon is a wash. I just hope I haven't lost everything I've done since I got here.

(Which points out a huge flaw in our system--we aren't networked, and we have NO backup system. So if this happened to the parish administrator's computer, we'd really be up the creek without the proverbial paddle.)

Hopefully we can get the computer tech here in the morning. Sigh.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Blah

The headache I thought might be related to not enough sleep? Was still around today, even though I had a good night's sleep last night. I felt okay when I got up, but felt worse and worse as the day went on. So tired, too. I was worried that I was coming down with something, and I took my temperature when I came home from work, but thankfully no fever, and no other symptoms but headache and general yuckiness.

Which means that I got virtually no work done today. I made a couple of visits this morning (before I started feeling so bad) and installed my shiny new printer in my office this afternoon, and that's about it. I must do planning for Thankgiving and Advent and my installation--soon! And finish the thank-you notes for pledges. And all the other things on the to-do list. So I hope I get my energy back tomorrow!

And now I shall go to bed, and hope that another good night's sleep will help.

Monday, November 09, 2009

Whinefest: One of THOSE days

~Stayed up waaaay too late last night, and woke up today with a massive headache. Related? I think I'm starting to see a pattern.

~Taking a shower and adjusting my wonderful massaging showerhead, it somehow broke and water spewed out in every direction except where it was supposed to.

~Took out a sweater I hadn't worn in a while and put it on, only to discover moth holes in several conspicuous places. Seems like mildew wasn't the only thing lurking in my closets at the last house.

~Shaking the salad dressing for lunch, top comes undone, dressing all over my shirt. At least it's just an old t-shirt.

~And to top it all off, walked in the kitchen a few minutes ago to see a MOUSE scurrying under the kitchen counter. Where it went I'm not sure, but I'm not happy about it!

~As Scarlett O'Hara would say, "Tomorrow is another day!"

Sunday, November 08, 2009

Anatomy of a long day

~Sundays start early. The alarm goes off at 5:30, and although I hit the snooze button at least once, I need to get out of bed before 6:00. I try to head over to the church no later than 7:10, because I have to unlock, turn on all the lights (not as simple as it may sound--it requires making a round of church hitting various switches in different locations), print my sermon, check the altar set-up, check in with the lector and eucharistic minister, vest and be ready to go at 8:00.

~Two services: 8:0o and 10:00. I have an hour in between but I'm always busy, checking on one thing or another. Today the services were a little longer than usual--long announcements because I needed to explain the precautions I was implementing for communion for the flu season (however long it may last), and because since this is the Sunday before Veteran's Day we sang "American the Beautiful" at the offertory, and displayed the flag. I'm not a huge fan of patriotic displays in church (as I've said before) but this ritual is very meaningful to veterans, and that is more true in this parish than in my last, in part because of a second ritual that goes along with it. We have an active prayer shawl ministry and for Veteran's Day the women make MANY red, white and blue shawls and lap blankets that are sent to the area Veteran's hospital.

~After church I went to visit the son of a parishioner who is quite disabled by MS; he lives in a nursing home, and his family visits on Sunday for lunch, so I joined them. This man is younger than I am, and has been in the nursing home for 8 or 9 years already. Very hard thing for this family. Then I went to visit the 90-year-old retired priest who is a "priest associate" (not the same as associate rector, mind you) at my parish--where he retired from active ministry in--are you ready?--1982. He has been ordained longer than I've been alive, and until a few weeks ago he still participated in the liturgy every week. But a few weeks ago he fell and broke his hip, contracted pneumonia in the hospital, and is struggling with some swallowing issues (as in aspirating food into his lungs). He's in rehab and badly wanting to go "home" to his own assisted living apartment. And he's sharp as a tack at 90.

~Since I was already in the area, I stopped by Lowe's to look for a fireplace screen. This turned into an exerecise in futility--despite checking "local availability" before I went which indicated otherwise, they didn't have a screen I could use. Finding one that isn't gaudy and that will fit my fireplace is proving to be difficult.

~I thought I'd stop by Tarjay on the way home...no fireplace screen the right size there, either, but I still managed to drop $50 before I got out of there. That place is dangerous!

~Home about 5:45. And tired.

~For the first time I feel like I'm starting to "get" some of the geography in the area. I bought a GPS before I moved and it has been really, really helpful in getting around. I've been using the maps on my iPhone too, to look at where I'm going and I'm starting to see the "big picture" in terms of where certain roads end up, the best ways to get places, and so forth. Today when I left Lowe's and went to Tarjay, I had a huge "aha!" moment about how things were related. I know that sounds trivial, but it feels major to me.

~It was a gorgeous day today. Very cold yesterday, but almost 70 today. Too bad I spent the afternoon running around.

~Tomorrow is my day off--and I am very much looking forward to it! It goes by much too quickly these days!

Saturday, November 07, 2009

Two pictures just for fun

I haven't posted any pictures in ages...I still haven't figured out the interface in my new version of Photoshop, so I just saved these to my desktop...a short-term solution to be sure!


The side of my house, as seen from my backyard, earlier this fall


Baby M, one week old (he's almost two months old now!)

Friday, November 06, 2009

Friday Five--What's new?


Please share five things you like *especially* when they are new.

1. Babies--they are so sweet and innocent, and well, "new." And the great thing is, they stay "new" with each new stage, each new developent. I'm loving seeing this again with my grandchildren.

2. Shoes--nothing like a brand new pair!

3. Books--especially one that is so inviting that you can't wait to sit down and devour it. New books are new universes waiting to be explored, with unsullied pages, and stiff new spines, and that new book smell. I hated buying used books as a student because they lacked all that new goodness.

4. New school supplies--clean crisp notebooks, pens and pencils sharp and ready to go. Even though I'm done with school, and even though I do most of my writing on the computer, I still love to get new pens and paper.

5. A newly made bed---not technically "new" I guess, but I love getting to bed with fresh clean sheets.

*and the book cover--I remember buying that book when I was pregnant with WW....long time ago
!

Thursday, November 05, 2009

Can we make a difference?

~Fish update: The second half of this interview on Fresh Air surprised me. When asked what he would suggest eating to slow down the demise of our fish population, the fish expert said what he ate (wild salmon) and went on to add that he didn't think what fish we chose to eat would have an impact on fishing practices--they are not consumer driven.

~So that leads me to ask, do individual actions ever matter? Can we slow down global warming by choosing to drive a more efficient car or using public transportation? Does it matter if we try to eat ethically or to recycle? Or are our actions futile unless the larger structures of the world change as well?

~What do you think?

Wednesday, November 04, 2009

I've been thinking

about yesterday's elections and what I wrote below, and it seems to me that the outcome of the elections is perhaps less a referendum on Obama's presidency and more a reflection of the narrow-mindedness of the electorate. I mean it's one thing to elect a Republican, and it's another thing entirely to elect someone who in his master's thesis argued that women should stay home and support their husbands, and that decried "feminists, fornicators, and homosexuals." Even if that person says that no longer reflects his views--not so sure I'd trust that.

Then there are the voters in Maine who voted for bigotry. Sorry, but that's what it is. I've said it before, but civil rights (and marriage is one) should not be put to the vote.

And that's my somewhat negative opinion for the day.

Tuesday, November 03, 2009

I might have to give up two of my favorite things*

Fish and diet coke. Diet Lime Coke to be specific, which I drink every day. Several glasses.

I've heard lots of reasons why diet soda is bad for you, but I've never really bought them. The rumors, for example, that aspartame causes brain tumors never seemed to be substantiated with real data, and the notion that drinking diet drinks causes one to eat more sugary food, even if it is generally true, I don't think applies to me. But today I found this report on a study that indicates that diet soda consumption may be related to decreased kidney function. After reading the actual abstract (available at npr.org) this may be the one I take seriously. At this point it's a correlation, and I know that it may not be causative, but do I want to run that risk? Nah. And I guess I shouldn't put Equal/aspartame in my coffee or tea either, if that is the suspected culprit. Maybe Splenda is still okay? Big sigh. Of course sugar always tastes better, but that is 'bad' too.

And the fish: I like fish, and ever since I gave up meat I've relied on eating fish once or twice a week; it's my protein of choice when I eat out. But according to this interview on Fresh Air yesterday, if I heard correctly, we have already depleted 90% of the world's fish. 90%. That is mind boggling. The expert interviewed talks about how fish that no one would or could have marketed before are being renamed, and processed so that they aren't so ugly so that we will eat them (Chilean seabass, for example, used to be known as Patagonian toothfish). And orange roughy (formally known as slimefish--doesn't t THAT sound appetizing!) matures so slowly (becomes 'adult' at 30 and may live to 150) that harvesting them is like cutting old growth forests. I had NO idea things were as bad as this sounds. So is it ethical to eat fish anymore? Farmed fish don't seem to be such a healthy alternative at this point either. I must catch the second half of this interview today and see with the fish expert recommends.

I suppose I am going to have to make myself drink plain old water (which for some reason I don't enjoy that much). And become a true vegetarian. Sigh. Giving up meat was easy; fish will be MUCH harder.

*and yes, I know this is a very "first world" kind of complaint...

Monday, November 02, 2009

it's that time again

~This morning I lay in bed listening to the news on NPR before I got up--they were talking about the elections taking place in several states tomorrow, and it set me to thinking about this time last year, and how excited many of us were about the presidential election. I can still feel that sense of excitement and hope that we felt in the hours leading up to Obama's election, and the elation we felt in the days that followed. And now the news media is referring to tomorrow's elections as a referendum on his presidency. That seems unfair somehow.

I knew from the get-go that Barack Obama wouldn't be able to accomplish all that I would hope for--no one could in this political climate. And I can't imagine a worse time to become president, what with wars in Afghanistan and Iraq dragging on and the economy going to hell in a handbasket in the waning days of the campaign. The health care debacle--I knew that there would be opposition, but nothing like what has sprung up from the conservatives--beyond the pale in many ways. Yes, I am very disappointed that health care reform is not more extensive than the bills currently in the congress (but not surprised--me, I'll take a single payor system, whether run by the government or not, but I don't expect it to happen any time soon).

Nonetheless, it seems unfair to say that if Democrats lose the governorship in New Jersey or Virginia, it's a reflection on how Obama is doing. Doesn't it have more to do with the merit of those candidates and the issues those states have to face than with national political sentiment? And shouldn't we give Obama more time before we sit judgment on his presidency? Take into consideration the extraordinarily difficult times he's been working in?

Next year is soon enough, don't you think?

Happy Birthday, NSLS

~How quickly another year passes. NSLS hasn't been blogging but she may still be lurking. Happy birthday, baby girl. Hope you had a great day, and hope it's a great year.

Sunday, November 01, 2009

Hallowe'en redux


The extent of my costume this year

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Random bits of Hallowe'en

~I'm happy to say that I did have a few trick-or-treaters....I only answered the door 3-4 times but there were multiple kids each time. And awfully cute costumes. Very young kids, too.

~There may have been more but it started raining again about 8, and that was that.

~I have a lot of candy left. Maybe I should've bought candy I don't like? But what fun is that?

~It's all chocolate :)

~I'm looking forward to an extra hour of sleep tonight, too. I'm really grateful, because tomorrow will be a very busy day. Two services, then run to Staples to get some supplies, then back home to set up for our All Saints' Dinner and Saints' Hall of Fame tomorrow evening. I'm a little nervous about that because even with a sign-up sheet I don't know what turnout will really be like, and how willing people will be to participate in the activity.

~I'm annoyed at having to go to Staples tomorrow. I should've gone today, but my local Stop & Shop has a Staples section that did (last week) have what I need (large pads of paper) so I thought I would get it there since it's 2 minutes from my house. Only when I went, that aisle has been redone to allow for--are you ready--toys for Christmas. Why do they need to sell toys for Christmas in the grocery store? Now? Gah. And at that point I didn't have time to go to Staples before time for trick-or-treaters.

~Oh, my petty complaints!

~My awesome Hallowe'en discovery? Dark chocolate Twix. YUM!